Hi, I’m Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, MA, LPC.
I’m a therapist and Life Coach, and a realistic romantic.
People ask all the time how I do what I do.
It’s not just pain and the tough stuff. It’s the best stuff of life, really. I’ll explain.
I value people above all else. They’re never more beautiful than when they explore their lives and invite me into their truth. I never forget how risky it can feel starting out.
After all, I already know I can help. They need to experience it to trust it.
Just reaching out and taking the risk humbles me. I’m awed by that kind of bravery and it never gets old.
Are you my People?
My clients long for healthy love but face a relationship challenge: infidelity, (theirs or a mate’s,) unfinished loss, betrayal, heartache, or an approach that’s just not working. They’re sad. Frustrated. Overwhelmed. Anxious.
They’re in some of the most painful conditions of their lives: heart-broken, grieving, lost, floundering, or just stuck in a confusing and painful relationship pattern.
If any of that sounds like you, welcome. I’m glad you’ve found me. Good things happen next.
Broken relationship of any kind is a loss.
That can mean you’ve lost someone -anyone important- through death, conflict, break-up, or divorce. It can also mean you’re living in a relationship that’s less than satisfying. It could be you’re living with huge disappointments or betrayal. Trust or hope might be foreign concepts.
No matter what’s going on, just the fact you’re reaching out means there IS hope.
Did you know that fulfilling relationship is the number one factor in life-time happiness and well-being? (If you need proof: watch HERE.) That’s why it’s my specialty.
When things are painful in relationship, it affects everything else. I bet you already knew that part.
Cool thing is, some people do know how this works. I don’t just know how this works, I do it myself and I know how to help YOU learn all about it and DO it. No matter what’s going on. No matter if you’re an easy fit for therapy or not.
I don’t need to tell you not everyone IS made for traditional therapy, right? That’s why it’s different here. I pay attention to the way YOU are made and give you tools that fit you.
You could try to fix everything yourself.
I did. For years. I thought it was the right thing to do.
Listen, I’ve been fascinated by people my entire life. I’m naturally wired to love us, to find answers, to fix, to believe that I could figure out anything and that it was my duty to do it.
All that striving got me some good stuff but it kept me in a crazy whirl too. And it kept me from having what I really wanted and value most: healthy, peaceful, connected relationship.
I was making things worse instead of better. For the longest time, I didn’t even realize what I was really trying to fix. I was just driven.
It gets exhausting.
Your drive may be different from mine but it likely covers a loss, a wound that needs to heal, not be ignored or “fixed.”
Don’t worry; I’m not going to dig. The road to healing doesn’t mean staring into the wound or picking at scabs. It doesn’t mean running marathons while you’re bleeding either. Lucky for both of us, I know what to do with your wounds and scabs when they surface.
We all have our story.
My story includes enormous pain but it has a very happy outcome; it forced me to heal and find out how to live and love well.
I finally figured out the relationship thing. I mean, not just on paper. Not just helping others. It made me good IN relationship.
Ultimately, ALL of it definitely made me really, really good at my job.
I’m not perfect in any of it. I’m human in all of it. And that’s just what we both need.
This is where our stories intersect.
Let’s make your outcome a very happy one too.
I’m really honored you’re considering sharing your story with me. It’s a huge privilege I don’t take lightly. I know you’re not going to share your story with just anyone!
I can help.
I certainly got an excellent education: from school (two graduate programs, one right here in Cincinnati at Xavier University;) from my work (as an educator and in agency work and private practice;) and from life.
You don’t need to do all your own research and striving and struggling. I’ve done all the hard work already. Besides the formal education, trust me, I explored every dead-end. I learned the hard way so you don’t have to anymore.
I like to say “My pain is YOUR gain.” It is. Literally.
If you let me join you.
How are we gonna DO that? Just let me know you’re ready and we’ll get started.
You’re safe here.
I specialize in relationship, yes, and also infidelity treatment including for the offender… no matter how recent or distant. I’m an ally for those exploring their personal and sexual history and identity. I advocate for survivors of intimate partner and family violence. I’m LGBTQ affirming and welcoming. All faiths or no faith, all races and cultures welcome.
Let’s schedule an appointment or a 15-minute in-person consultation. I’d love to meet you!CONTACT ME