Hi, I’m Beth Luwandi.
I’m a psychotherapist, a relationship guru, a realistic romantic.
I practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where I help people cope after loss and enjoy the best love of their lives.
My clients are successful, intelligent people who long for healthy love but struggle with unfinished loss, heartache, or an approach that’s just not working. They’re frustrated. Overwhelmed. Anxious. Sad.
They’re also smart enough to know effective help at the right time is truly intelligent.
If any of that fits, nice to meet you. You’re in the right place.
I know from experience, every loss is a wound that needs to heal, not be ignored or “fixed.”
Don’t worry; the road to healing doesn’t mean staring into the wound or picking at scabs. It doesn’t mean running marathons while you’re bleeding either. First order of business is to stop the bleeding. We can do this together. Quickly.
It’s gross, but I can talk like that because, for a long time, I feared I’d be staring into the wounds of the past. I sure didn’t want anyone picking at the scabs, so I did the other. I literally (and figuratively) ran from my pain. I flew out the door and went for a run. When my kids needed me more and that wasn’t so easy, I stuffed my feelings, And ate my feelings. No matter what, I moved and worked because…
I tried to fix everything,
to make things perfect, pretend my world was NOT totally rocked, avoid the dark abyss, and, above all, hide any trace of stupidity, or evidence of my mistakes.
My plan was to learn more, love more, give more, do more, and just work harder. I would figure it out, get it right, and reverse all my misdeeds (or at least make up for them somehow.)
It gets exhausting.
Still, it can feel hard to slow down and face the possibility that you can’t do it alone, that you might be missing something.
Knowing when it’s time for truly helpful support is a sign of strength and wisdom. I like to say it’s pretty genius, actually. And definitely a key to success and well-being.
So, you know your plan isn’t working. Yet you’re a little afraid to find out what happens in therapy or coaching. Maybe you’re skeptical. Maybe you’ve tried it before or tried something like it.
Don’t worry. I know you want some peace. Less pain. Results. Now. And you want it to help long into the future, not just cover things like a band-aid.
I can help.
The famous dead psychologist,Carl Rogers, says, “I’m not perfect. If I were, it would not be enough. I am human… and that is enough.”
You might be thinking, um, hey, I like my drive toward perfection. It’s the right way to be. Maybe you call it striving for excellence or something noble like that. I hear you.
On the other hand, maybe you’re well aware of your imperfections and foibles.
Either way, we all need people who see us accurately, understand us and what we’re experiencing, and accept us unconditionally. It’s what I do for you. For starters.
Maybe you’re thinking that’s good, but it sounds pretty flimsy and simple.
You want a plan, a strategy, an approach that’s going to solve this challenge.
I have those too. Lots of them. They’re effective, tailored to you.
My first aim is to see how you’re made, hear exactly where you want to go, and then we choose together the keys to unlocking your healing.
You’ll use strengths you already rely on. You’ll learn how to identify and easily leave things you’ve believed and habitually done that aren’t helping anymore. You’ll replace them with truly helpful thoughts, feelings, and experiences… little by little or as rapidly as you can handle it. You’re in charge of the pace.
You’re safe here.
I’ll help you see yourself clearly, honor the way you’re made, and walk with you to get where you want to go. Honestly, it won’t be as hard as you fear. Chances are very good, you and I will find a lot of joy and laughter in the process.
While I’m a holistic practitioner (and that means something to some of you) I am not all woo-woo about it. My approach is brain science and evidence-based and even more holistic than the body-brain perspective we hear so much about in mindfulness and holistic realms.
Here, we get to the core just as quickly as you can stand and start healing from the inside out, where those changes happen quickest, most effectively, and last a lifetime. I say, if you’re ready, let’s get started.
Know this: I’m LGBTQ affirming and welcoming.
I’m an advocate for survivors of intimate partner and family violence.
I’m an ally for those exploring their personal and sexual identity and that includes those wrestling with their sexual history. I specialize in infidelity treatment including for the offender… no matter how recent or distant.
Founder, The Holistic Human Theory, 2015. (TM) including: Clean, Non-Blaming Communication,(CNBC) (TM), The Love Equation (TM) and After the Affair: Finally, a Book for the Offender (C) 2017.
I’m a natural Existentialist, a practitioner of mindfulness and Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy, a client-centered clinician, a humanist. I like the Enneagram Personality Typology.
Master of Arts in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Xavier University, Cincinnati, Ohio.
Master of Arts in Teaching, English Minnesota State University, Mankato, Minnesota all but thesis. Original research: Measuring the Impact of Self-Naming (including evaluation of labels placed by others) on Quality of Writing Voice in a Heterogeneous and Homogeneous Classroom as a Means toward Pluralism.
Bachelor of Arts in English, Writing Emphasis, Music Minor, Gustavus Adolphus College, St. Peter, Minnesota, magna cum laude.
Chi Sigma Iota, the International Honor Society and Professional Association for Counselors. American Counselor’s Association, member in good standing, 2017.