Good Guys Finish First

I know you don’t believe it. You’ve been telling yourself the easy opposite for a really long time. But I am here to tell you there is no wisdom in the foolish idiom that good guys finish last. Bull-puckey! Ready to find out what will help the world know what a good guy you really are? Check out this upcoming seminar for MEN 35 & better.

There ARE women out there who love, love, love, and appreciate good men! (I’m one of them, btw.)

I’m trying to address both men AND women here and let you each listen in. There’s a lot to be learned by eavesdropping, you know. So, stay with me ladies. Your turn is coming.

Men, listen up. Women, listen in.

I know you’re tired. Of crazy, unpredictable, spastic women who seem to BE one thing and then issue an endless stream of requirements and spoken or unspoken expectations once they feel they’ve got you!

I know you’re tired of being the one who has to put yourself out there and wonder “does she get that I’m really NOT an asshole?”

I know you’ve spent years bearing the burden of rejection since you are the one who, traditionally. has been doing the asking. And you HAVE been rejected. And you have learned to accept it. And it has left its mark.

I know you’re bewildered by the female species. I know you really can’t quite figure us out, the speed at which we talk and analyze and the abundance of words, words, words, words, words, all to say one simple thing that is kinda frazzled by the time we get to it.

I understand that, really, you just want us to be happy and when we are unhappy it’s nearly impossible NOT to take it personally and not try to DO something about it.

I know that’s why when we offer a problem you deliver a solution. Because you’re good at that. Because although you ARE empathetic and, by God, of course you care about how we feel, you actually do figure the better thing to express is a solution so that we can stop feeling so bad right now! I like that about you.

I also like that when I tell you plainly without making you feel you’re wrong, that I just need you to listen, you DO let me know you care and you DON’T offer a solution. You hold onto your solution for my problem even though it costs you to operate like that.

I know it’s actually a sacrifice. You’re basically exploding with a cure for cancer! And I love that you love us enough to be uncomfortable like that. I know it hurts you like blue balls but you do it because, in fact, we ARE really important to you.

I know you’ve grown up in the transition time between traditional fathers who were not in the birthing room and didn’t have many tender words (perhaps) and the new generation of men who seem to seamlessly embrace nurturing their children and their spouses and you think sometimes, (in the dark and you would never tell anyone) dear God, who am I as a man?! 

You’re in mid-life now, aware of where you came from and not exactly sure where you are headed but you feel better equipped to meet it than you ever have. You want to make the most of the time you have left because life no longer seems forever like it did when you were twenty and invincible.

You want a reasonable companion who is NOT a ton of work and drama. You know it’s time to experience an ease with yourself, with your mate, with your life. If you can’t achieve that by now, what’s it all for anyway? So why on earth are you not having success finding a suitable mate?

You tell yourself you’re a good man. And wonder why so many other people- and especially the women you are hoping to please- can’t always seem to see it.

It’s truly confusing.

Except that it’s really simple.

We women just complicate things.

It’s our specialty.

Dang, can we ever THINK about things and analyze the heck out of anything! Plus, on top of it, we have feelings about everything and that MATTERS!

This scenario…this is why I have made it my mission to help. And I want to give you hope, good guys. There is a good woman out there who really does want your love and your special mix of manliness. There is a good woman out there who understands some basic things about how you’re wired and she appreciates it.

And she does not just have a good personality.

She’s attractive, and playful, and youthful. She likes sex AND companionship and she is responsible for her own emotions. She knows how to let you be yourself and how to let you see who she is too. She understands what it means to be human and middle-aged and female.

Believe it or not, she’s looking for you.

Let me introduce you.

(Tomorrow, I talk to the ladies!)