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Recovery Timeline after an Affair

People ask me all the time “what’s the affair recovery timeline? How long will this take?” Of course, I know they mean a lot of different things:how long will it hurt this bad?can we just “go back” to before I knew?how soon can we get him to shape up?when will I know what’s happening with […]

How do you Decide?

Remember back when George W took flack for saying “I’m the Decider! I decide what’s best.” Well, no matter what your political leanings, it’s actually true. I mean, he wasn’t the Decider of the entire free world as a stand-alone be-all dictator (thankfully!) but he was the President of the United States and he was […]

Relationship Patterns Busted

We all establish relationship patterns, sometimes without realizing it. Even when you’re aware you’re doing the same dance (or experiencing the same frustrations) it can be hard to see things clearly from the inside. Maybe one day you suddenly realize you’re doing all the reaching out. You text and call. You initiate contact. You come […]

A Successful Midlife Crisis

I’m not sure I’ve been more ecstatic than I’m feeling this morning. Life just seems to get better and better and better. Is this a midlife crisis or the result of a successful one? I’ve had A LOT of happy mornings like this one where I get out of bed and think, sometimes say outloud: […]

Love Matters

At least part of you knows already that the quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life. A seventy five year study at Harvard proves it. Watch the TEDtalk on this. It’s beautiful (and less than 13 minutes.) See. Love Matters. Most of you suspect that having a loving partnership is central to […]

Dating is not a game! Or is it?

Remember when you were 20-something and it seemed (relatively) easy to connect with a potential partner? You’ve lived through failed relationships and disappointments since then, so it’s pretty clear what you knew back then did not net you a long-lasting, healthy relationship. Probably for a myriad of reasons. For starters, they don’t teach this stuff […]

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