My Story

The people who come to see me have knocked it out of the park. Academically. Athletically. Professionally. They are impressive. Achieving. Sportsing. Performing. They’re just plain winning!

But when it comes to relationship, something just isn’t working.

They’ve probably been to couples counseling or tried individual therapy.
But in the moment, when they know what they should do, something compels them back to that well-worn path.
They’re right back in the miserable conflict with someone they truly love. Or they’re facing a breakup. Again.

I was no different.

I call myself a Marriage Flunky turned Relationship Expert.

That was me. High achiever stinking it up in the relationship realm. I thought I could figure it out since I’d figured out so many things.

I was knowledgeable. Attachment styles, love languages, Love and Respect, Life Stage Development. I had a Master’s degree in Education. Pahlease.

But, he wasn’t trying, so I tried even harder. Research, study, and effort had always worked before.

I went to counseling alone hoping someone would help me figure out how to manage his symptoms, his moods, his patterns.

The two of us stayed up til all hours “talking it out”. Both of us tried hard to get the other person to hear and understand us. We were always trying so hard to iron things out!

Sure, there were times when it felt pretty good. We made the most of family time. We tried to create good memories for the kids. In all honesty…

That marriage was walking heartache.

The relationship started taking up so much energy, even the things I dependably knew were solid — like my work ethic, my achievement, raising successful kids — began to suffer. So, I did the logical thing.

I dragged my husband to Couples Counseling.

The counseling we did made everything worse.

We argued even more. He didn’t practice any of his skills. I didn’t think he was even paying attention. I felt like I was doing it alone. Things would seem okay and then something would set one of us off and we were back to a very familiar dance.

It was exhausting.

I was convinced Marriage Counseling was a bunch of bunk.

It definitely did not work for us.

It was absolutely confounding. So frustrating.

None of our Couples Counselors knew how to help. And then…

Everything Changed.

I got an excellent education. During my Master’s program at Xavier University, in Cincinnati, Ohio, I started to think, “Hey, maybe if we’d had this kind of help, there would have been hope!” In fact, it changed what I decided to specialize in.
Of course, I didn’t stop there. I did ALL the training.
EMDR, Gottmann, Relational Life Therapy (I really like Terry Real), Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapist Certification. Stacking up the letters behind my name, of course.

Lucky for you, I didn’t stop there!

Because I had personal experience, I knew the parts that actually work in real life. The methods that actually stick when you leave the couples session. I also knew what things needed to be tweaked.

I developed an entire approach to therapy.

It proved wildly successful with my clients. In fact, Whole Human Therapy (TM) is treatment that fills the gap between knowing everything and being able to DO the helpful thing in the moment. Even when that old well-worn path is so compelling.

I developed the Effective Infidelity Treatment in Five Stages (TM).

I realized, if I was going to help couples, I had better know how to deal with affairs and betrayal. They happen! Plus, a large percentage of people ready for couples counseling are dealing with one, sometimes without both being aware of it.
And, believe it or not, the commonly taught protocol for treating infidelity skips some crucial parts. Without those steps, relationships might stay together, but the people in them suffer longer and flounder even decades later.

I like to say “My pain is your gain!”

It really is. You’re welcome. Now you don’t have to keep working so hard to figure this out. I’ll show you what works.
Look, ALL my clients are very successful, smart people. So, you’re in very good company.
It is not your fault that relationship has been complicated or that it’s challenging right this minute. Relationship strength is different because it involves the Whole Person. It’s not the same as your other strengths. We’ll call on some of them, just in a different way. Of course you can learn this.
Whether you’re both ready for couples counseling or coaching, or you’re the one ready to invest, let’s connect and get started.

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Testimonials:

Working with Beth is like working with someone who sees things so instantly and so clearly that it’s remarkable.  I find her insight into (not only situations but) me as a person just uncanny.  She gets right to the point which has been 100% right. -LT

After my infidelity, opening myself up and putting myself in a vulnerable position was worrisome. Beth’s persona, willingness to listen, and caring made this easy for me in a manner. Knowing her and participating in her programs has made me a better person. – AJ

Beth’s teachings and methods provided me with an understanding and skills on a much higher level than I ever expected. I’m excited about using them to further cultivate my marriage. – JH

I was really losing my self-respect, my drive, and my joy before I started to work with Beth.  She is no-nonsense and direct.  She has been a life saver. – LT

Beth cultivates an atmosphere that allows for pure authenticity. The ability for her to tap into my personality traits and how that ties back into my relationships, work, etc. allows me to feel comfortable and confident in myself. It’s remarkable how much I’ve grown and built on my understanding of who I am as a person in less than a year. I would 100% recommend her. -AS

I loved the wonderful insights and gentle, loving way Beth showed them to me. We are now in wonderful relationship. I highly recommend Beth, her coaching, and programs. – SJ

With Beth’s support, I have survived some of the worst days of my life after my husband’s affair. I have truly learned so much. My family has noticed the change and has said “it must be your counseling.”  I love our time together. – LH

I feel like a new person and I feel like whatever life throws at me I am now armed to internally resolve it as quickly as possible and with grace! – HT

I would absolutely recommend Beth and her program. I now feel like I have the tools and the practice to be a better communicator. Having this allows me to adjust my thoughts, feelings and the way I pose questions to be able to handle any situation.  This not only has allowed me to reconnect on a deeper level with my husband but I also have used it to avoid conflict with my family and friends.- HT

You’re safe here.

I specialize in relationship, yes, and also infidelity treatment including for the offender… no matter how recent or distant. I’m an ally for those exploring their personal and sexual history and identity. I advocate for survivors of intimate partner and family violence. I’m LGBTQ affirming and welcoming. All faiths or no faith, all races and cultures welcome.

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