Most of us identify strongly with our own thinking and intelligence, so it can be natural to trust your brain to figure it all out. If you could just “get to the bottom of it” or “understand why this happened” you’d have your answer and solution, right? Well, unfortunately, no. Psssst, here’s a secret: there […]
Heal After Heartbreak
If you’ve been trying to heal after heartbreak due to a post-COVID breakup, you are not alone. While many people stayed together in 2020, the fall of 2021 saw a significant shift as many couples decided to call it quits. That’s left a number of people struggling to heal. You’ve probably experienced heartbreak before, but […]
Getting Needs Met
Whether in life generally or in relationship specifically, getting your needs met can be tricky. Some people go about this by being demanding. (Aggressive.) Others are quiet. (Passive.) Some pretend to be content while there’s seething anger and resentment below the surface. (Passive Aggressive.) Sometimes others just “take the bull by the horns” and go […]
Grieve Actively
Learning to grieve actively is one of the best skills you’ll ever need. It might seem morbid, but none of us escape life without significant loss. Yes, even you, young grasshopper. I remember, at 23, studying the life span of long-term marriage and getting to the midlife or “third stage.” One of the “processes” of […]
Personal Growth is Hard
Ever wonder “Why the actual EFF should I keep doing all this personal growth?” It gets tiring sometimes, right? Exhausting. It can seem endless. Peeling back layer after layer that needs to be healed can feel like a hamster wheel of torture.(To completely mix my metaphors.) So why keep pursuing personal growth? GREAT question. And […]
Gentleness: I’ll teach you how.
I’ll teach you all about gentleness. It’s one of the most important skills for healthy relationship…even with yourself. Most of us don’t do this naturally. Most of us have internalized a harsh, critical voice that is the exact opposite of Gentle. Then we go about believing that voice and just doing life according to it’s […]
Change your Beliefs, Change your Life
You can change your beliefs. Think about it: everything you have in life started with an idea. Take a look around. Where did your job come from? How about the house you live in? Even your children began with an idea… even if that idea was only that it would be nice to get some […]