Self-Love Talk: Selfish or Essential?

What is all this talk about self-love, anyway? Isn’t self-love just selfish, narcissistic, self-centered, navel-gazing? Or is it something important and life-giving, necessary, and a skill you can learn? So many of us grew up with the message that even considering ourselves was selfish, self-centered, maybe even “unfeminine” or unkind to other people. We got […]

Self-Love is KEY to everything

Five Clues you Struggle with Self-Love. When you get something nice, how do you feel? Whether large or small: an unexpected inheritance, a gift from a friend, consideration from a complete stranger- how do you feel? Guilty? Do you feel a little skeptical of their motives? Wonder why this happened to you? Do you quickly put it in the category of a FLUKE? OR on the opposite, do you feel entitled and think things like “yeah, that’s right! Why doesn’t that happen more often?”

Recovery Timeline after an Affair

People ask me all the time “what’s the affair recovery timeline? How long will this take?” Of course, I know they mean a lot of different things:how long will it hurt this bad?can we just “go back” to before I knew?how soon can we get him to shape up?when will I know what’s happening with […]

Affair Recovery

Affair recovery takes more than time and intention. It takes the right approach. First of all, don’t worry. You are normal. Whether you are the Betrayed or the Offender, I want you to know the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing right now are normal. This is the most painful thing that happens between individuals in […]

Infidelity Recovery

Your complete recovery after infidelity depends on getting the right help. When you’re already in tons of pain, finding effective help is even harder. What a nightmare! Infidelity is one of the most devastating challenges people face in life. No matter what, it’s a challenge for each of you. If you’re the betrayed partner, you’ve […]

Dating during COVID-19

Answering whether and how to continue dating during COVID-19 might depend on how you define dating. You might need to Define the Relationship, (DTR – if you’re in a current connection, or several.) You might also have to redefine dating. To be crystal clear, I am not advocating physical proximity. Not at all. The challenge, […]

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