“I revealed my infidelity; now what do I do?” If you’d like to preserve the relationship, here’s the short answer: continue to apologize for what you truly regret, don’t tolerate yelling, mistreatment, or real abuse as a response from your partner, and get help from a specialist, not just a “couples counselor.” I’ll say more […]
Being the Best Client During Treatment How you recover after infidelity depends almost entirely on being the right kind of client during treatment. I’ll explain what I mean. This quote applies: “Your wound is probably not your fault; but your healing is your responsibility.” Especially after infidelity, this concept can be a tough one to […]
When people discover an affair or decide to come clean, they often ask “Is affair recovery even possible?” If this is you, don’t pay attention right now to friends, family, social media, or the internet on this one. There are a million negative opinions and they all spout off without any real wisdom on the […]
Most of us identify strongly with our own thinking and intelligence, so it can be natural to trust your brain to figure it all out. If you could just “get to the bottom of it” or “understand why this happened” you’d have your answer and solution, right? Well, unfortunately, no. Psssst, here’s a secret: there […]
It’s a devastating and disorienting trauma. But what do you DO? One hundred percent of people who fully recover do this one thing. This might come as an absolute shock to you but I’ll give you this one for FREE.
People ask me all the time “what’s the affair recovery timeline? How long will this take?” Of course, I know they mean a lot of different things:how long will it hurt this bad?can we just “go back” to before I knew?how soon can we get him to shape up?when will I know what’s happening with […]
Affair recovery takes more than time and intention. It takes the right approach. First of all, don’t worry. You are normal. Whether you are the Betrayed or the Offender, I want you to know the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing right now are normal. This is the most painful thing that happens between individuals in […]