communication

Good Boundaries – at holiday time and always

When facing time with family, good boundaries will serve you well. But first, let’s be clear: good boundaries are not “I just can’t take it ANY.MORE!” limits. They’re not demands you hope others will fulfill. They are not cold, hard brick walls. Good boundaries are more like standards you have that keep YOU peaceful, safe, […]

Expert Relationship Help for the Win

Some clients come to me for expert relationship help feeling already defeated, sensing this is their last-ditch effort. They’ve tried everything else. That puzzles me sometimes. Why did they wait so long? How did they let it get this bad? And yet, I get it. I spent years and years trying real hard, endeavoring to […]

Losers Fight

Losers fight and fighters always lose. When it comes to intimate partnership, fighting means you both lose. There’s no losing the battle but winning the war. If there’s a war, you lose, my friend. Period. Fighting achieves exactly nothing. Did you know research clearly shows that debate is not effective in changing others’ perspectives, convincing […]

Communication Matters

Communication. It’s key. People coming to me for help in their relationships (alone or together) tell me all the time that they “just need to improve their communication skills.” Most people strive really hard to do just that. They work on being kinder and having a softer approach. They work really hard on analyzing correctly […]

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