Most of us identify strongly with our own thinking and intelligence, so it can be natural to trust your brain to figure it all out. If you could just “get to the bottom of it” or “understand why this happened” you’d have your answer and solution, right? Well, unfortunately, no. Psssst, here’s a secret: there […]
Heal After Heartbreak
If you’ve been trying to heal after heartbreak due to a post-COVID breakup, you are not alone. While many people stayed together in 2020, the fall of 2021 saw a significant shift as many couples decided to call it quits. That’s left a number of people struggling to heal. You’ve probably experienced heartbreak before, but […]
Love during Corona
Love during corona is your relationship under pressure. Lots of it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but wait two weeks. Hopefully by then, you’ll have seen your therapist (virtually) a time or two AND you will read and DO the stuff that’s actually helpful in order to maintain a healthy, loving connection… or adjust […]
Expert Relationship Help for the Win
Some clients come to me for expert relationship help feeling already defeated, sensing this is their last-ditch effort. They’ve tried everything else. That puzzles me sometimes. Why did they wait so long? How did they let it get this bad? And yet, I get it. I spent years and years trying real hard, endeavoring to […]
Losers Fight
Losers fight and fighters always lose. When it comes to intimate partnership, fighting means you both lose. There’s no losing the battle but winning the war. If there’s a war, you lose, my friend. Period. Fighting achieves exactly nothing. Did you know research clearly shows that debate is not effective in changing others’ perspectives, convincing […]
Can this Marriage be Saved?
People often ask “can this marriage be saved?” They want to know if their situation is SO bad there’s NO hope. Did they marry the WRONG person? Have they totally screwed things up? Are they in all this pain now simply because they got married for all the WRONG reasons? Yup. Yup, that’s it. There […]
After Infidelity; sometimes long after
How do you survive after infidelity? Can relationships really be saved? Can they really come back better than ever? People present these questions to me all the time. Let’s face it; infidelity is the worst. Yet, we all know that infidelity happens. A local training brochure that went out to psychotherapists here in Ohio claims […]