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Personal Growth is Hard

By Beth LuwandiPosted on February 7, 2022February 6, 2022Posted in BlogTagged Good Therapy, Healing, Life Coach, Midlife, Midlife Crisis, personal development, personal growth, purpose, self help, Well being

Ever wonder “Why the actual EFF should I keep doing all this personal growth?” It gets tiring sometimes, right? Exhausting. It can seem endless. Peeling back layer after layer that needs to be healed can feel like a hamster wheel of torture.(To completely mix my metaphors.) So why keep pursuing personal growth? GREAT question. And […]

Gentleness: I’ll teach you how.

By Beth LuwandiPosted on December 1, 2021November 30, 2021Posted in RelationshipTagged Life Coach, Marriage Counseling, Relationship, Relationship Skills

I’ll teach you all about gentleness. It’s one of the most important skills for healthy relationship…even with yourself. Most of us don’t do this naturally. Most of us have internalized a harsh, critical voice that is the exact opposite of Gentle. Then we go about believing that voice and just doing life according to it’s […]

Personal Growth; it’s human

By Beth LuwandiPosted on February 4, 2020February 17, 2020Posted in BlogTagged behavior change, Change, couples therapy, Good Therapy, Life Coach, personal growth, Therapuetic relationship, Therapy

Personal growth is one of those “given drives” of humanity. You don’t have to work hard at it. And yet, most of us do. (Especially faced with crisis: divorce, break-up, infidelity, death, financial pinch, job change, that extra ten pounds after the holidays STILL not moving after the whole month of January.) We really strive. […]

Behavior Change: why is it so hard?

By Beth LuwandiPosted on January 14, 2020January 14, 2020Posted in RelationshipTagged behavior change, Life Coach, money psychology, Psychology, Relationship, relationship pattern, transformation

Behavior change might be on your agenda this time of year. Maybe besides losing the holiday weight, it’d be nice to drop a few additional pounds and get in shape. You’ve been swearing you’ll afford that vacation and this is it! Maybe this is the year to find love or really improve relationship once and […]

Good Boundaries – at holiday time and always

By Beth LuwandiPosted on November 24, 2019November 19, 2019Posted in BlogTagged Boundaries, Clean Nonblaming Communication, communication, coping with holidays, Good Therapy, Holidays, Life Coach, Relationship, relationship pattern, Well being

When facing time with family, good boundaries will serve you well. But first, let’s be clear: good boundaries are not “I just can’t take it ANY.MORE!” limits. They’re not demands you hope others will fulfill. They are not cold, hard brick walls. Good boundaries are more like standards you have that keep YOU peaceful, safe, […]

Choices and Guilt

By bethluwandiPosted on September 29, 2015March 27, 2017Posted in BlogTagged Choosing a therapist, Counselor, Good Therapy, Life Coach, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Trusting Yourself

Call him an old soul; we do sometimes. What would you give to be free of shame and guilt? I bet you’ve been on a few guilt trips in your lifetime. My son, age 22, speaks precise truths that took me 45 years to learn. The hard way. Well, okay, maybe 40 years. And my […]

Grief sucks; this helps

By bethluwandiPosted on September 10, 2015September 25, 2021Posted in BlogTagged Bereavement, Grief, Life Coach, Loss

One woman’s Grief Story: “The other night in my dream, my sister wasn’t dead. She came back into town and had found a way to live with her terminal illness. She had aged in the ten years since I last saw her, but she was obviously healthy. I couldn’t understand why she had simply gone […]