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Cognitive Reframe to the Rescue

By Beth LuwandiPosted on March 20, 2020March 19, 2020Posted in BlogTagged anxiety, behavior change, Depression, Emotional Pain, Good Therapy, Psychology, self help, Well being

Cognitive reframe is not just a psychotherapy term. It is that. But it’s more. You can actually do it with your masterful mind and FEEL better. It’s sort of like magic. Or ninja neuroscience. Here’s how to engage a cognitive reframe: you notice how you’re thinking about a thing: “oh my God, there’s no toilet […]

Staying Motivated

By Beth LuwandiPosted on January 28, 2020January 27, 2020Posted in RelationshipTagged behavior change, better life, better love, better relationship, habits, inner critic, mindset, Psychology, Relationship, relationship help, staying motivated

There IS a secret to staying motivated and it is completely within your control. That’s the good news. Putting the secret to work to benefit you takes just a little conscious effort on your part. (For you super-lazy people, that’s the bad news.) For the rest of us, staying motivated is actually easier than you […]

Behavior Change: why is it so hard?

By Beth LuwandiPosted on January 14, 2020January 14, 2020Posted in RelationshipTagged behavior change, Life Coach, money psychology, Psychology, Relationship, relationship pattern, transformation

Behavior change might be on your agenda this time of year. Maybe besides losing the holiday weight, it’d be nice to drop a few additional pounds and get in shape. You’ve been swearing you’ll afford that vacation and this is it! Maybe this is the year to find love or really improve relationship once and […]

How do you Decide?

By Beth LuwandiPosted on December 17, 2019December 16, 2019Posted in BlogTagged decision making, Good Therapy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Men, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Women

Remember back when George W took flack for saying “I’m the Decider! I decide what’s best.” Well, no matter what your political leanings, it’s actually true. I mean, he wasn’t the Decider of the entire free world as a stand-alone be-all dictator (thankfully!) but he was the President of the United States and he was […]

Choices and Guilt

By bethluwandiPosted on September 29, 2015March 27, 2017Posted in BlogTagged Choosing a therapist, Counselor, Good Therapy, Life Coach, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Relationship, Trusting Yourself

Call him an old soul; we do sometimes. What would you give to be free of shame and guilt? I bet you’ve been on a few guilt trips in your lifetime. My son, age 22, speaks precise truths that took me 45 years to learn. The hard way. Well, okay, maybe 40 years. And my […]

Love is Easy; Love is Abundant

By bethluwandiPosted on August 17, 2015November 21, 2019Posted in BlogTagged Divorce, Emotional Pain, Finding a Mate, Love, Midlife Dating, Psychology, Psychotherapy, Relationship

Have you heard, “love takes work” or “good love is hard to find” or “love hurts, love stinks”?

Before you date again

By bethluwandiPosted on August 7, 2015March 27, 2017Posted in BlogTagged Emotional Pain, Finding a Mate, Midlife Dating, Newly Single Again, Psychology, Relationship, Romance, Trusting Yourself

What are the first things you want to know before jumping back into the pool of “plenty of fish?” How to stay away from the slimy, stinky ones? Maybe you’re just wishing you could skip all the painful parts. If you’re angry at all the advice about “wait a year” and “go find yourself first,” […]