What’s the stuff that gets you through these cold, spare-feeling months after the holidays? Here in Cincinnati, as I write, it’s late January, cold, with a dust of snow on the ground and spurts of gusty wind, so the reflective, winter hibernation feeling pervades. Even if it’s sunny and warm where you are, I’m sure […]
Your work in relationship
It can be really hard to do your work in relationship when you’re so bothered by someone else NOT doing theirs. My mother used to say “you are one hundred percent responsible for your actions and reactions.” Gosh, I hated my mother sometimes. I rolled my eyes and knew she was right even as a […]
Time Alone
If you’re still searching for a partner, it might surprise you I’m an advocate for time alone. For singles AND for those IN relationship. If you’re looking for a partner, I still advocate time alone regularly. Either way, I know this can sound like crazy-talk. Read on and find out just what I mean. Every […]
Choices and Guilt
Call him an old soul; we do sometimes. What would you give to be free of shame and guilt? I bet you’ve been on a few guilt trips in your lifetime. My son, age 22, speaks precise truths that took me 45 years to learn. The hard way. Well, okay, maybe 40 years. And my […]
Before you date again
What are the first things you want to know before jumping back into the pool of “plenty of fish?” How to stay away from the slimy, stinky ones? Maybe you’re just wishing you could skip all the painful parts. If you’re angry at all the advice about “wait a year” and “go find yourself first,” […]
Finding your right counselor or life coach
The right counselor or life coach. You’ll invest time, energy, and probably some money finding the right therapist or coach. Timing-when you’re right in the middle of a crisis or need to feel better fast-can make it even more stressful. Don’t worry. Your natural process of selection is at work no matter what. Follow these […]