Ever wonder “Why the actual EFF should I keep doing all this personal growth?” It gets tiring sometimes, right? Exhausting. It can seem endless. Peeling back layer after layer that needs to be healed can feel like a hamster wheel of torture.(To completely mix my metaphors.) So why keep pursuing personal growth? GREAT question. And […]
Cognitive Reframe to the Rescue
Cognitive reframe is not just a psychotherapy term. It is that. But it’s more. You can actually do it with your masterful mind and FEEL better. It’s sort of like magic. Or ninja neuroscience. Here’s how to engage a cognitive reframe: you notice how you’re thinking about a thing: “oh my God, there’s no toilet […]
Good Boundaries – at holiday time and always
When facing time with family, good boundaries will serve you well. But first, let’s be clear: good boundaries are not “I just can’t take it ANY.MORE!” limits. They’re not demands you hope others will fulfill. They are not cold, hard brick walls. Good boundaries are more like standards you have that keep YOU peaceful, safe, […]
A Successful Midlife Crisis
I’m not sure I’ve been more ecstatic than I’m feeling this morning. Life just seems to get better and better and better. Is this a midlife crisis or the result of a successful one? I’ve had A LOT of happy mornings like this one where I get out of bed and think, sometimes say outloud: […]