Most of us identify strongly with our own thinking and intelligence, so it can be natural to trust your brain to figure it all out. If you could just “get to the bottom of it” or “understand why this happened” you’d have your answer and solution, right? Well, unfortunately, no. Psssst, here’s a secret: there […]
Heal After Heartbreak
If you’ve been trying to heal after heartbreak due to a post-COVID breakup, you are not alone. While many people stayed together in 2020, the fall of 2021 saw a significant shift as many couples decided to call it quits. That’s left a number of people struggling to heal. You’ve probably experienced heartbreak before, but […]
Getting Needs Met
Whether in life generally or in relationship specifically, getting your needs met can be tricky. Some people go about this by being demanding. (Aggressive.) Others are quiet. (Passive.) Some pretend to be content while there’s seething anger and resentment below the surface. (Passive Aggressive.) Sometimes others just “take the bull by the horns” and go […]
Recovery Timeline after an Affair
People ask me all the time “what’s the affair recovery timeline? How long will this take?” Of course, I know they mean a lot of different things:how long will it hurt this bad?can we just “go back” to before I knew?how soon can we get him to shape up?when will I know what’s happening with […]
How do you Decide?
Remember back when George W took flack for saying “I’m the Decider! I decide what’s best.” Well, no matter what your political leanings, it’s actually true. I mean, he wasn’t the Decider of the entire free world as a stand-alone be-all dictator (thankfully!) but he was the President of the United States and he was […]
Relationship Patterns Busted
We all establish relationship patterns, sometimes without realizing it. Even when you’re aware you’re doing the same dance (or experiencing the same frustrations) it can be hard to see things clearly from the inside. Maybe one day you suddenly realize you’re doing all the reaching out. You text and call. You initiate contact. You come […]
A Successful Midlife Crisis
I’m not sure I’ve been more ecstatic than I’m feeling this morning. Life just seems to get better and better and better. Is this a midlife crisis or the result of a successful one? I’ve had A LOT of happy mornings like this one where I get out of bed and think, sometimes say outloud: […]